Today we'd like to introduce to you Ms. Carly Pandza, a beautiful soul that is making a difference in the world with her beautiful spirit and soon amazing event called "You are not your hair" August 16, 2014 in Los Angeles that we had the honor of partnering with for this event.
Why are you BALD?*
I’m bald because I choose to be bald. Shaving my head was something
that I always wanted to do and I realized last year that it was as if I waiting
for someone to give me permission to do so. I was waiting for perfect
opportunity to present itself when I realized I needed to create that
opportunity. It is time because I say it is time.
That is one of the reasons I am partnering with The Bald
Movement to put on the event “You Are Not Your Hair” that will take place on
August 16th, 2014 in Los Angeles. I wanted to provide
the opportunity for women to access their inner beauty and transform their
confidence by through letting it all go.
Now there is an opportunity for women that have this taboo wish like I
had to shave their heads for a great cause.
How has being BALD impacted your life?
Being bald I get my inner beauty as an experience. Being bald allows me
the access to the possibility of being fun, free, vulnerable and self expressed
even without hair and I want all women to have the opportunity to experience
that if they so desire.
Being bald makes getting ready SO much easier. I don’t need shampoo,
conditioner or any sort of hair product anymore.
I have sensitive sensations of hot and cold on my scalp when there is
slight temperature shift that I never experienced before with hair. I usually
make sure I have a hair or scarf when I go places for that very reason. I also
have to be conscious of sunscreen on hot days or else my scalp will burn and I
will look like I have a big round tomato head.
Since I shaved my head one year ago in June 2013 I have lost 25 lbs,
become vegetarian and created a healthy lifestyle that was nonexistent in my
life before. I literally cannot have one drink anymore without getting drunk
because my tolerance has gone down so much due to my diet shift.
By letting go of my attachment to hair I let go of other things in my
life that were no longer serving me.
I’m not promising that this sort of physical transformation will happen
to every women if she shaves her head but it definitely happened to me and I
don’t think it was a coincidence. I believe that most things cause a ripple
affect in life. Shaving my head caused a spiritual, emotional and physical
transformation of mind, body and spirit. A metaphorical and physical rebirth if
What's the worst thing that has happened or has been said to you as
a BALD woman?
I don’t know think this is the worse thing or even a
thing at all. Someone mistook me for a man once. They asked me from
behind ,“Sir, can I help you?” while I was in Bed, Bath & Beyond. It really
wasn’t bad at all though. It was funny. The poor employee looked horrified when
I turned around and they saw that I was a woman. I think they thought I was
going to yell at them but of course I didn’t. I just let it go. It was an honest
mistake. Even though I was wearing a dress. I had the same exact experience of
someone thinking I was boy at 8-years -old while I was wearing a skirt in the
grocery store. I blame my bowl haircut that was a product of a haircut done by
my mom. I guess history repeats itself! HA!
I’ve had people stare at me. This one woman at a restaurant literally
stopped her fork mid route to her pie-hole and stared with her mouth agape. I
don’t take offense though. Seeing a women boldly walking around bald and proud
is a rarity. Our society has conditioned women without hair or breasts, these
things that we’ve been taught are essentials to being considered a woman or
feminine, to feel like they should walk around ashamed if they are lacking those
things. Hair does not equal beauty, nor does it equal femininity but it
definitely plays into our gender roles.
To be honest I haven’t had horrible things said to me being bald. I get
really positive reactions and compliments from people pertaining to my baldness.
People are drawn to my bald head. They are curious and I feel like being bald
creates this welcoming space that allows people to feel like they can approach
When I first shaved it all off I had the experience of feeling like my
bald head was a lightbulb. I felt radiant. Like my head was radiating energy or
light. I was beaming. People would flock to me like a moth to a flame to talk to
me about it. I felt vulnerable like there was nothing to hide behind anymore.
Nothing to protect me from being profoundly intimate with others. This was
freeing and I loved it!
I have a minimum of 5 people a day come up to me and tell me that they
like my hair. I know they mean lack there of. I’ve had someone say “I love your
head before” - haha!
Women will immediately confess to me, “I’ve always wanted to shave my
head but I can’t because of, insert ‘reason, consideration and/or excuse here.’
Now I’m able to offer, “Funny you should say that cause I’m
throwing this event…”
What words of encouragement would you share with someone going
If you embrace being bald it will liberate you and you will feel
reborn. Once women get that they are not their hair anything is possible. Then
that leads to them getting that they are not their bodies, their thoughts or
They are whatever they declare they are. That they can have a strong
sense of self that is not conditional or based on outside
Regardless of women, if the everyone in the world got that concept what
a different world we’d be living in. A world of people getting that they are
enough, that they are whole, complete and perfect just they way they are. Now
that would be some kind of world. That’s the world that I’m committed to
creating and transforming by creating the event “You Are Not Your