Why are you BALD?
“I did my BC on my birthday in 2012 and it was the best thing I could have ever done!!! After years of dealing with alopecia I finally decided it was time to end the madness! I have found that there are many women faced with this and it becomes so stressful to deal with trying to hide it and it can really make you feel quite ugly if you are not secure with who you are. Not to mention the huge amount of money that is spent conforming to the world’s view of what is beautiful!! We all are familiar with it…those with “good hair.” The concept of “good hair” has become a learned behavior that puts so many women of color in bondage!! Well, I say NO MORE!!! For many years I worried about what other people would think or say if they saw my “real hair” and I really didn’t feel attractive when I looked at my real hair. I did the expensive weaves, the locks and the wigs…and just grew tired of trying to be what I felt fit into society’s view of what was beautiful!! All of that caused me to not like myself throughout the years. I have truly been on a journey over the last year and a half and all I can say is God is AMAZING!! After going through this awesome transformation, gaining my health back and having my life renewed I can honestly say that I LOVE ME and am enjoying the woman I have become!!! I thank God daily for; my wonderful natural parents, spiritual parents and friends for their love and support. And others who have the same conditions who helped me realize I was not alone, that I am fearfully and wonderfully made!! I have gained courage, confidence and learned to love myself. I gave God my imperfections and cast my cares on Him. I say to any woman who is going through this, IT IS TIME TO BREAK FREE and “BE” what is on the inside of you!! There is an awesome woman inside of you, now it’s time to birth her and present her to the world!!! “BE.”
Why Are You BALD?
I’ve been rocking my low cut for six years. My wanting to cut my hair started way back in highschool after years of damage to it, and never knowing how to care for what once was a head full of thick beautiful hair. Perms were the end of a good thing. My hair eventually affected my self image and self esteem. I felt ugly. I even skipped school once with clippers in my bookbag and begged my sister in law to cut it. Fast forward to 21, in college, and 3 months after the birth of my daughter I had finally matured enough to do what was so desperately needed. The Big Chop!!! I went to my local barbershop and ridded myself of the burden of damaged hair. I embraced my new found beauty and started modeling soon after. I have never looked back. I wear my hair bald because I’m not attached to it. My hair doesn’t define me. I define it. I’m beautiful with or without it.
IM KINTE QUEEN AND I SUPPORT THE BALD MOVEMENT!!!
It was a few months ago that I came to the sad realization that I would be the first grandchild to graduate sense my grandpa lost his battle with leukemia, and I wanted to do something in remembrance of him. So that in a way I felt like he was there with me. It was then with the support of my friends and family that I used this new found confidence. The thought came to me and I knew it was perfect. I decided to shave my head. I had always been curious about what it would be like, and what better way to honor my grandfather than giving my hair to Wigs for Kids, and walking down the stage at graduation with no hair under my cap.
As of two days ago I have gone hairless.
Yes I am bald (the tiny bit of hair I do have just on top is like baby hair & breaks off), my hair just doesn't grow. It's known as "beaded hair". It's only my head that's affected, I have eyebrows & eyelashes, as it's not related to alopecia. I have small goosebump like bumps on the back of head. I used to have these on my knees as a kid but they seem to have gone away. On a plus side I don't have much hair on my arms or legs! :)
I grew up in Canberra, which even though it is the capital of Australia, it's like a big country town. My beautiful parents were always protective of me and concerned as I got older, as I was teased every day throughout school. I've worn wigs (when out in public) ever since I was about 10 years old. I've never felt confident enough to not wear a wig outside, and have suffered severe mental health issues mostly from the trauma I've experienced by being made to feel like an alien. I don't "hide" the fact that I wear a wig to anyone, if anyone asks I straight up tell them. At home I'm much more comfortable wearing a beanie or hoodie, particularly now it's turned cold. I've also experienced a lot of trauma unrelated to the monilethrix but I did read that interestingly, stress & trauma can make it worse. I also know from other family members that hormones & different hair phases play a part.
I do hope to one day (and I feel it's slowly coming together :) ) feel confident enough to truly be myself on the outside. I remind myself of the positives, that I'm unique, that I won't have to worry about going grey or getting expensive haircuts! I've learned to enjoy wearing wigs over the years too. It is empowering to see women just show their bald side though, and prove that society can be so ridiculous with their so called beauty standards.
It's through people like yourself, and the internet, that is making me do much more comfortable and at ease with my condition. I would love to help educate people on my own experience and knowledge on the disorder. It really is just such a rare condition, that it's difficult to find any info about it anywhere. Also every doctor I've ever met has never heard of it and has had to look it up! I did manage to find one IG user in the US who has monilethrix but I'm yet to hear back from her.