Why are you BALD?Hereditary Alopecia/Stress Alopecia
How has being BALD impacted your life?When I began having issues with my hair and scalp, I ignored them. Relaxers were making my hair limp and lifeless. When my scalp began to react, I panicked and went to a dermatologist. He told me to stop the chemicals immediately. I chopped off my hair and wore a teeny afro. Even then I realized I had a thinning spot. I got sister locs and my hair grew pass my shoulders.
suddenly there were spaces of no hair. I wasn't losing dreds but the spaces were appearing. My stylist couldn't hide them any longer in a way that felt comfortable. I began wearing scarves, while trying to figure out what I would do.
I felt like I was keeping some terrible secret. I felt shame. coming from a place where I know that feeling all to well and the work I did to fight my way out, it was depressing.
I got up one night and chopped them down to a teeny fro again and the baldness was so obvious. I felt liberated and terrified at the same time. It still took a while for me to shave my head. I did not want a scarf coming off and people see the patch work on my head. Plus, I didn't want to cause my husband any embarrassment.
When I shaved my head, I couldn't stop smiling. I felt like a proud warrior. My dad kept his head bald, I use to watch him shave. He's passed on, but I feel like he is with me, loving me and telling me how pretty I am, Everytime I shave.
Whats the worst thing that has happened or has been said to you as a BALD woman?I cut myself for the first time, right before a dinner party I was giving.
A man said to me why was I walking around with a rag on my head, when he saw me bald, he asked "wwhat the hell did I do that for". It made me furious and I wanted to light him up but it was at a work event so I let it slide.
What words of encouragement would you share with someone going BALD?I don't want to spread false triumph. Some people have head shapes that really compliment baldness. Some people have head shapes that would bring more challenge than just being bald in public. you have to do what makes you comfortable and confident. whether it's beautiful scarfs, tasteful wigs or a bald head; you have to wear it in confidence.