One of the most important things to understand in life is that Confidence is the foundation for everything in life and it is our confidence, or lack there of, that directly affects HOW we do everything in life.
When we know and appreciate who we are, we feel great about ourselves and we make better choices and better decisions. When we make better choices and better decisions, we create a better life for ourselves.
When we create a better life, we are much happier. Everything is based on our self-confidence!
Our confidence is perfectly intact when we are born, but diminishes during our childhood. We lose a little of it when we make mistakes, fail, misbehave, get in trouble, feel guilty, neglect ourselves, and/or do things we are ashamed of. As we all know, kids can be mean. Many of us can relate to being bullied and picked on as children, which can destroy our confidence early on in life.
People who love themselves and are confident radiate strength, passion and conviction. A confident woman is not afraid to be herself. She knows who she is. Her values, purpose and her unique gifts.
Building confidence must be something that you want to do for yourself, not for anyone else in your life. Many people will just settle with their current life and will not experience how incredibly rewarding it is to live a life filled with confidence, passion, purpose and enthusiasm because they lack the confidence and knowledge to do so. There is nothing wrong with wanting to feel better about yourself and to achieve more in life. Sometimes getting there is not easy and there are things that can happen along the way to make the path a lot longer and more difficult.
Your confidence is NOT controlled by anyone else. That means that you have absolute control and can become confident at anytime in your life, regardless of your past experiences!
Your confidence is like an unused muscle that needs to be developed. And like any muscle, it never stays
the same for any period of time. It will either get stronger or weaker depending on how you use it. When you build your confidence it’s like exercising a muscle. It relies on small, incremental improvement on a daily basis. You won’t run out to the gym and expect to have perfect muscles for life in just one hour. So, consistent confidence building is the only way to lasting confidence and happiness.
It’s never too late to become confident and live the live you’ve dreamed of! We ALL deserve to be happy and to be living the life we dream of. With dedication and determination you can learn to love and trust yourself unconditionally –and everything in your life changes for the better once you do!
By Suzanne Fetting