I asked my bald beauties what was something they feared about being BALD and the answer that stood out to me the most was this “Men would not find her attractive”. Can you relate to this fear because I sure can. Even though I’m Bald by choice, I also battled with that fear. When I shaved my hair off in 2010, the first thing I thought as soon as I got out of the chair was, I hope this doesn’t ruin my chances of attracting my mate. Can you believe that I was so concerned about that, that I wore wigs when I went out with friends and on dates? While on dates, I would reveal that I was BALD under the wig to see their reaction and one had the nerve to say, “I don’t date women without hair.” That statement made me feel so horrible, not because of what he said, but because I could have saved my time from going out with someone who wouldn’t accept the real me. That particular date helped me to realize that I didn’t accept myself to a certain extent because I was hiding behind a wig just to attract a man. Can you guess what I did next? That’s right, I removed the wig, never to be worn again and I began to Embrace my Baldness to my full potential. Now I only wear wigs for modeling opportunities and remove them as soon as the job is done.
In this world you have to stand firm in who you are or this world will eat you alive. You can’t allow anyone or their opinion of you become your reality. Just because someone else doesn’t accept you doesn’t mean you don’t have to. What matters most is how you see yourself. Embrace you more, do things to help you feel good about you. Look in the mirror and tell yourself how beautiful you are and how much you love yourself, celebrate your body for all of the wonderful things it always you to do, dress yourself in clothing that makes you feel good, pamper yourself, exercise, eat healthy, do things that have a positive effect on you, your confidence, your body, & your health. When you are confident in you, you won’t wonder, Will he love me with my Bald head? You’ll just say, If he can’t love me Bald and all, that's his loss not mine.
Nell Coleman - Founder
A woman’s beauty is not defined by her hair, but by her confidence.
Being a bald woman, can be overwhelming to some people, and this I have been a witness.
I have been a victim of labeling ever since I have been bald, dating back to 2011. I was on my way to a photo shoot a couple of weeks ago and I was sitting on the train minding my business, listening to Truffle Butter by Nicki Minaj with my shades on. There was a young lady sitting across from me. She was Hispanic, had long brunette hair, I guess she fell as though I was intimidated and/or felt less of a woman because I have no hair. She was twirling and playing with her hair, crossing her legs, shaking her legs... She continued to play with her hair, chew her gum, fixing her scarf, rolling her eyes at me. I said to myself if looks could kill, I would’ve been dead. This continued for about 8 train stops. Once her stop came, she got up from her seat.. rolled her eyes at me.. and she started walking towards the door, she missed a step and almost tripped. She still had the nerves to turn around swing her hair and look at me. Truth be told she was the insecure one between the two of us. But how insecure can you be to let a bald woman intimidate you?
Labeling is nothing new to me, I have been labeled so many times and it doesn’t bother me anymore, I’ve gotten used to it. I have been around insecure women. These women are so insecure of themselves because they wonder why is it that I; being bald and fit can cause so much attention when in fact they have long hair, big boobs and a big booty. It’s not all about the looks; that’s where they get confused and get it wrong, it’s about how you carry yourself and your self-confidence.
People will stare, people will wonder, people will create a story in their head and put labels on you. People will always have something to say. What people think of you is none of your business. Ignorance is a disease that does not have a cure when you are insecure and your not comfortable with whom you are. Unfortunately there is a lack of self- confidence and self- love in our community. Some women are so driven by social media and TV that they feel as though they have to fit in and be accepted no matter what. They have to keep up with the trends and they are so driven by what’s on and in, sometimes harming themselves by overdoing things and they end up looking ridiculous. Women think that because they have long hair they can be intimidating to us bald women, but I really don’t care, everyone to each its own, everyone has the right to chose on what they want to be and present themselves as.
I am a woman of my own. I am different. I am confident. I am powerful. I am sexy. I am fearless. I am a woman. I am desirable. I am exotic. I am comfortable. I am mysterious. I am headstrong.We all have our own reasons on why we shave our heads. I chose to shave my head as a matter of style and it’s a representation of me, this is the real me. This is who I am and meant to be. A bald woman. I am Bald by choice.
P.S. Message to my beautiful baldies: Embrace your individuality, walk with pride and
your head up high. Embrace your confidence, and let your smile be the brightest light in
By: Lisbeth Lora - TBM Beauty