I asked my bald beauties what was something they feared about being BALD and the answer that stood out to me the most was this “Men would not find her attractive”. Can you relate to this fear because I sure can. Even though I’m Bald by choice, I also battled with that fear. When I shaved my hair off in 2010, the first thing I thought as soon as I left the barbershop was, I hope this doesn’t ruin my chances of attracting my mate. Can you believe that I was so concerned about that, that I wore wigs when I went out with friends and on dates? While on dates, I would reveal that I was BALD under the wig to see what their reaction would be. One guy had the nerve to say, “I don’t date women without hair.” That statement made me feel so horrible, not because of what he said, but because I could have saved my time from going out with someone who wouldn’t accept who I chose to be. That particular date helped me to realize that I didn’t accept myself because I was hiding behind a wig just to attract a man. Can you guess what I did next? That’s right, I removed the wig, never to be worn again. I began to embrace my look to my full potential.
In this world, you have to stand firm in who you are or this world will have you believing that who you are isn't good enough. You can’t allow anyone or their opinion of you to become your truth. Just because someone else doesn’t accept you doesn’t mean you don’t have to. No matter what anybody says, what matter most is what you, think of yourself. Embrace you more, do things to help you feel good about you. Look in the mirror and tell yourself how beautiful you are and how much you love yourself. Celebrate your body for all of the wonderful things it always you to do, dress yourself in clothing that makes you feel good, pamper yourself, exercise, eat healthy, do things that have a positive effect on you, your confidence, your body, & your health. When you are confident in who you are, you won’t wonder, Will he love me with my Bald head? You’ll just say, If he can’t accept and love me for me, that's his loss not mine.
Happy Valentine's Day!
Written by Nell Coleman
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