We'd like to start the new year off by sharing a story of a young lady who not only chose to be Bald and has an amazing story that will surely change how you see yourself as a Baldie but this story was chosen because she realized that being Bald allows you to look beyond your flaws and imperfections because you are forced ( in a good way ) to face them rather than cover them up (hide). As I always say, there is nothing more beautiful than a woman who is unafraid to be herself. Congrats on being names Baldie of the month of January.
I have been a happy Baldie for about 7 years. Prior to that I was nearly bald with a very short low cut for a good 10 years by choice . While I was pregnant with my son 8 years ago I decided not to cut my hair during pregnancy and my hair grew into a major afro. Then of course within 2 months of having him I was fed up with the hair and didn't know what to do with it. If I had that kinda fro now I’d work it like a Queen. But as it was my 1st child and I was busy trying to get a hang of things, hair was not a priority. So I decide to go get some Ghana weaving to save me time for 2 weeks. I wish I could take those 2 weeks back. Cause you would have lol’d if you saw me 10 days into it. We had lift off. ( You know the one, where the front baby hair part starts to lift off your scalp with the extensions braided into it, chai – that’s Nigerian for I am f**ked ) So of cause when I took the braids out my hairline was MISSING!! Yas hunty – gone with the wind GONE . LOL . I was totally vex. But didn't think twice to get the chop. I was like, yeah imma just go back to my low cut. My barber missed me but then when I took off my hat, he had a good laugh at my expense. So I had it cut down quite low. But by the next day I got upset every time I walked past a mirror. So I went back to the barber and asked for a clean shave. Now, even though I had worn my hair very low for many years, getting a complete shave was different. It took me 2 days to go out without a hat. But once I did, that was it. I was free and didn't look back.
Every year I get adventurous and decide to grow my hair and the growing process is usually always quick but annoying for me. Ordinarily, if I don’t get a shave in 6 – 7 days I get irritated and get random headaches. So when I decide to grow it out I literally go about 2 to 3 months without shaving. I change the color a couple of times, get a couple of creative haircuts, and then get fed up and shave it off again. Like nah, can I just have an Afro in 3 months please, then we can deal. I have always been a get up and go kinda woman. Don’t get me wrong, I do love hair, My 5 year old daughter has plenty of it and she wears it well. I appreciate good healthy hair , especially when worn natural. I just don’t have the patience to grow mine. As a lady I have never been a fan of the drama that comes with growing hair. The wait at the salon, deciding what style to do, the - I can't go out cause my hair ain't done. Yeah, I am not here for it. I am all for enhancing your beauty, I encourage others to do so. But I literally just cannot be bothered. Let’s just say I am lucky I have a decent shaped head. Wearing your hair bald by choice can be refreshing yet scary in the early days. We are all born with hair and we are taught to cherish and protect it from an early age, so when we are stripped of it, for whatever reasons, it’s always a significant change.
It comes easy for some, yet not so easy for others. Some say it shows strength and power to go bald. Which it does to an extent because you are stepping out of the box. But Ultimately it is for me ( this goes for those doing it by choice or because of a condition , NOT for those doing it as a fashion statement ) also a sign of courage . There is usually an intricate trait in women who freely go bald and wear it with pride. There is a knowing, a different layer of wisdom that strives within such women and that always needs to be celebrated .
Being bald means I look in the mirror less. I spend very little because I shave myself and use my own home made lotions and potions which my daughter and son also benefit from. I spend ZERO time at the salon, and people compliment me often.
Being a baldie also allows you to see yourself clearly. With naked eyes. No noise. It allows you to look beyond your flaws and imperfections because you are forced to face them. This again depends on the individual.
It’s different for everyone. My aura, energy and personality has been more or less the same since I was like 10 so I am used to the same level of attention. People mention my personality and ability to make them feel free a lot more than they mention the baldness. I have been told many times that it’s almost as if this is how I am destined to be. Like having hair would actually be what is odd for me.
If you are bald, by choice or condition. Embrace it, look in the mirror and accept yourself for who you truly are. Rise above the insecurities that the society has instilled in you and love yourself wholeheartedly. Your hair is a part of you, it is not all that you are. You and everyone else should be able to see past that. It is important for us to be able to love what we see in the mirror , but that comes a little easier when we already love what is within . So the key here really is to embrace acceptance and being true to oneself, and if you are not happy with it, you can always wear a dope wig.
From a happy natural, proud Sexy baldie