Why are you BALD? There were a few reasons and sometime around mid last year, 2013, they all piled on and I finally decided to go bald in a constructive way. 1. So I did it as a Shave for a Cure - Just for Love with CanTeen. Bottom line was that everyone deserves a shot at love and life, and no invasive illness should hinder this. Hence to raise awareness and hopefully the little money raised would help in someway and my hair would make wig for a beautiful person. 2. I was put off with men and all their tactics to just "hookup" and most of them always mentioned they liked my hair. It annoys me that there are so many unfaithful people that it makes me stop believing in faithful ones. I just wanted to see who cared for who I was and not just looks. It was like a filter in someway. 3. I wanted to see what being bald was like - somewhere in my mind it seemed like another lovely hairstyle. Another way to be unique and adventurous and push boundaries. 4. Norms of society are nonetheless important I guess, but sometimes being different is shown as being wrong or with a negative connotation. So I wanted to prove that I "chose" to be different on purpose. So maybe different is not that bad!
How has being BALD impacted your life? In little ways which make a huge difference to me. It has me more efficient as I actually make morning lectures on time, my gym buddy is happy he doesn't have to wait 30 mins for me to shower and get dressed and I have a little mole on my neck, before I was so conscious about anyone seeing it that I always hid it behind my hair, now I have no choice but to just let it be.
On a more wholesome view it has just made me raise my head and be more me, feel the pains of someone who would be forced to do so due to illness of culture - being bold in winter is such a pain but YAY beanies! Well, empathy and compassion from experience is proving to be a strong motivator, I can't wait to be qualified enough to be a official volunteer at our local CanTeen !
What words of encouragement would you share with someone who may not be confident with their BALDhead? My dear love, you are so amazing in who you are that hair is nothing but means to keep your head warm in the cold. If by choice then go girls! - we are free to decide in every aspect of our lives; and if by illness - you got this babe! Hold that head high because you are stronger than most people just by being you and embracing life! Stay strong, this world needs you. Who knows you could be the person to cure an illness, ace a sport or save lives or invent something. Read "The Secret by RB" xx
Why are you BALD? Fighting against Hodgkins Lymphoma 4b
How has being BALD impacted your life? Being bald has given me the strength to use it as a tool to being awareness to my cause, Hodgkins Lymphoma.
What words of encouragement would you share with someone who may not be confident with their BALDhead? Attitude is everything. Bald is a way to share your story and can even be used to bring awareness to your cause. If anything, know that bald is beautiful. Stand up and fight the good fight to what you truly believe in.
Why are you BALD? After years of wearing weave because I felt I needed longer hair to be pretty, the damage has become irreversible and the hair thinning and hair loss from improper care, genetics, and a slew of other reasons led me to shave my hair off on July 8th 2014. I took the clippers and just went full scalp bald.
How has being BALD impacted your life? The fact that I didn't cry when I shaved it was a sign that I had grown from the younger days when my hair defined me and meant the world to me and my image. I still saw beauty, slightly, in myself. Enough to feel good about shaving it. I wore headwraps for the first week because I was began to feel ugly and thought people were staring me at the time. The day before I went out without a headwrap, I looked at pictures of beautiful women on line who were bald and from them and their sassy divaness I became motivated and felt pretty. I walked out the door, bald, and never looked back. Almost 2 months in and I feel great. The damage form the weave and hair pulling is very vivid to me but I am dealing with, finding faded hairstyles to rock while I wait to see if the damage really is permanent. All in All I feel great, beautiful, and a shower has never felt so amazing.
What words of encouragement would you share with someone who may not be confident with their BALDhead? Be strong. It's ok to cry and feel unpretty, honestly because you are not UNPRETTY, you are beautiful but it may take a moment for you to look in the mirror and see that and it's okay when you do. I felt so ugly until the more I looked in that mirror and saw myself in my natural raw state, detached from what I thought made me beautiful; I felt prettier than I had ever felt and so will you. WE ARE NOT OUR HAIR. We are not defined by it. Your beauty lies within your heart, your soul -- your being a courageous and brave human is enough to make you beautiful. Do not be afraid to embrace who you are. We focus so much on trying to look perfect that we forget that perfection does not exist. Once we remove that stigma that beauty is created by the things we add to our appearances and focus on beauty being exactly what it is: Self-Love - we will never feel ugly again. Kudos on your journey
Why are you BALD? Only less than 1% is diagnosed with it in the U.S. It is called Blastic Plasmacytoid Dendritic Cell Neoplasm. And it is only curable through a bone marrow transplant. It is often misdiagnosed. I was diagnosed October 2013 and immediately treated, and was in remission after three of my six rounds of treatments. I was fortunate to have a sister that is my life's keeper. She was my donor, and am here to say that I am cancer survivor, Leukemic warrior!
How has being BALD impacted your life? The day I was diagnosis, I was also told that I would receive my first round of treatment after midnight. That gave me several hours to prepare for the battle. I decided that now was the opportune time to cut my locs. I knew that it was inevitable and rather than losing it as a casualty of war, I’d rather offer it as sacrifice for battle. It would symbolize the shedding of the old, and the coming of anew through this season of war: one of my many badges of honor and courage (BGSC Battle Series, 2014, forthcoming).
What words of encouragement would you share with someone who may not be confident with their BALDhead? I was unapologetic for disrobing in stores because I accepted what and how I was feeling: HOT! These moments symbolize a much greater appreciation for my need of comfort than how others perceived me. My quality of life is contingent on my comfort to breathe and live how I desire, which is essentially far more important than the keeping up in appearances. The irony is that when I received these not so inconspicuous stares, it was generally from men. Some of which were balding or alreadly bald. My response in the accidental glances that caught my eye and did not attempt to avoid was, "Hey! Don't we have the same hair cut?"
Why are you BALD? In 2013 I was pregnant with our first child, she decided to come 3 months early, after she was born tests had to be run to see why she came before time and after tests and ultrasounds a tumor and thickening of my endometrium was found. Biopsies and blood tests later resulted that I had stage2 Endometrial stromal sarcoma (ESS), after a battle with chemotherapy I was given my all clear in Feb14, 6months later after my initial check ups and tests it was shown that me endometrium had thickened again and my left ovary/cervix was showing abnormalities. Once again I was undergoing biopsies and tests and I'm now back on the chemotherapy/radiation journey with stage3c Uterine cancer which unfortunately has spread to my left ovary and cervix. Originally when first diagnosed i opted out of having surgery I am 22 so was hoping to have more children. Now it seems that possibility is out of the window, I will be continuing chemo/radio for the next 6 months and then eventually I will have surgery to remove any risks of recurrence once again.
How has being BALD impacted your life? At first when I went bald from chemo#1 it was very traumatic, watching my hair fall out every day was extremely emotionally tough, it was not only impacting myself but my husband, our daughter was just a baby then so she didn't take any notice. Eventually I asked my husband to shave my head because finding it all over the house and in bed was more painful than it all being gone at once. When it was shaved I felt hideous, questions went through my mind 'will he still find me attractive?' 'will i be considered a freak?' but my husband knew that's what i was thinking, everybody did but I never showed that i was having these concerns. My husband would tell me everyday how beautiful i was and how proud he is and how much he loved me, eventually I began to embrace it, stopped wearing my wigs, i started to feel empowered, why should i feel embarrassed having no hair was not because i couldn't but because right now it wasn't necessary. The second time round of shaving was easier and liberating although i was still devastated to be going through treatment again and after six months of beautiful hair growth, it was OK this time, because i knew that having no hair didn't change anything about me or how my husband and family felt, my daughter is a toddler now and she finds it funny, slaps my head and kisses it. Being bald has changed me, not into a depressed low self esteemed woman but into a strong, fighting willful role model for my daughter and other women out there facing battles with their hair.
What words of encouragement would you share with someone who may not be confident with their BALDhead? Embrace it, beauty isn't defined by what you look like it's defined by who you are. Never loose sight of yourself because your bald, tell yourself everyday that you are beautiful and strong. Being bald isn't a burden or shameful. Its strength to shine through others that hide behind their hair & makeup to feel part of something.