My name is Dawn Silver. I am 42 and from the north of U.K. I have found your Facebook page really inspiring. The issues you cover has helped me to feel OK about my appearance after my hair fell out and to realize that having hair is not as important as I used to think.
My hair fell out as a result of chemotherapy for breast cancer. I am currently 3/4 of the way through this treatment and will have surgery in the new year.
My daughter (in the photo, wearing one of my scarves) and my partner, as well as others who know me, have been incredibly supportive and have encouraged me to be proud of who I am. When my hair first fell out I felt very self conscious about it and armed myself with hats, scarves and a wig. Very quickly though, I began to feel like I was covering myself up for the benefit of the general public and realized that actually, I and those around me who mattered, were absolutely fine with my baldness so I now only wear a bobble hat when I'ts cold outside. I've had comments such as "have you thought about wearing a wig/scarf" and I usually just respond by asking them who would I be wearing it for? I think losing my hair has definitely given me a new perspective on what makes a person and a new level of confidence. Wearing wigs and scarves is absolutely fine if that's what a person wants to do but it's a shame if they're being worn purely because you're embarrassed about your appearance. There have been a few occasions when I've become irritated by the looks I've had from people in the supermarket or in the car next to me but can generally get that people will look/stare because that's just a natural reaction. I've found that mainly, people avoid eye contact and will become slightly nervous when talking to me and I find that quite amusing.
I think the best advice I can give to anyone having just or about to lose their hair...embrace it, it will make you feel so strong! Xx
I am bald because 3 years ago my aunt who I was very close to cancer came back but this time it was more aggressive and spread to her brain. One day she woke up and brushed her hair and it all came out,she broke down and told my uncle she does not feel beautiful anymore or like a lady. When I heard that she felt that way I made a decision to cut my hair. The next day I saw her and she looked at my like I was a stranger, she asked "why did you cut off all your beautiful hair baby" and I looked at her and said "because I wanted you to know you are beautiful with or without hair" and she broke down. Me being bald has literally changed my life, I no longer have hair to hide behind I am now all face. I have learned to love myself a lot more and embrace every freckle, mole and unique feature that I have and own it. I love my bald head and I embrace the stares that I get. My aunt told me it takes a strong bold woman to wear her hair close cut and I agree. Love yourself and rock your bald head,if they stare let them and keep the wondering, They only wish they can't be as beautiful bold and brave as us to wear this style. Being bald makes me unique, not many woman in California has this look, they're into weaves and all so I stand out but that's ok. W.O.E be unique and love every curve of your face, embrace being bald its a beautiful thing.
I was recently Bald due to Breast Cancer, It was empowering.. with out any hair, brows or lashes I was allowed to truly see my inner essence, my spirit... It was an amazing spiritual journey. Embrace your goddess!!! Let the world see your curves..from your shoulders to the top of your sexy head..the lines are beautiful.
10/16/2014 1 Comment