After every negative thing that was experienced up until then, God began to take me under His wing and opened a door that I never imagined walking through. - Ebony Dicks
Why are you a Baldie?
I was diagnosed with Alopecia Areata at the age of 4. It turned from losing hair in patches, into Alopecia Universalis, meaning total body hair loss.
What challenges have you faced as a bald woman?
Growing up, living a "normal" life was out of the question. I was constantly judged, mistreated and made fun of, by people of all ages. Kids were cruel and adults were very ignorant and not sympathetic to my problem. Rumors were constantly spread about me that I had cancer, when I never had the disease in the first place (thank GOD). Alopecia is simply just a fancy word for "hair loss". Being affected by the autoimmune system. I had dealt with the ignorance of our society for 21 years. Going to school was difficult, being called names and barely making friends. Getting stared at in public and shut down by the opposite sex, all because I did not fit their description of beauty. It was almost impossible. Once my mother explained to everyone what was going on, things became easier for me. My hair fell out for the final time at age 9; in which inspired my mother to make my very first wig. On occasions when my hair grew back, it was in a pixie-style or longer. During the absent period, my mother made hats to cover up my head. Even though she couldn't stop the emotional pain and tears, she got tired of seeing me suffer from this silent and unexpected condition.
How did you overcome the insecurities of being bald?
I went through a very painful breakup with my ex in 2014, which led me on a journey of self-discovery. He was the first person that I had shared my deepest insecurity with and tried to help him understand, but things did not work out in the end. After every negative thing that was experienced up until then, God began to take me under His wing and opened a door that I never imagined walking through. In 2015, I began competing in pageants. Initially to earn money so I could finish my education, but then something else happened. I discovered ME, in the process. My life story turned into a NATIONAL platform, in which I am a Legislative Liaison for the National Alopecia Areata Foundation! God turned my pain into PURPOSE! I overcame my biggest fear at the NAAF Conference in Washington D.C., this summer. Revealing my baldness for the VERY FIRST TIME. I placed 2nd runner up at my pageant (2015), as well as competing at the State level. Breaking stereotypes for Alopecians alike, everywhere! I have never felt more FREE, confident and sexy!
What words of encouragement would you share with someone who isn't confident with their baldness?
Outside of Christ, love begins with YOU. If you cannot love and accept yourself FIRST, then how do you expect someone else to love you? Learn how to be comfortable in your own skin. My mother taught me this from very young. Reveal yourself when YOU are ready. Do not conform to society's standards of what beauty is. CHANGE that definition. There is so much powerful in owning what you have and once you begin to accept it, then no one can steal your confidence. I am NOT my hair
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