12/8/2016 2 Comments
Why are you a Baldie?
I became a Baldie in February 2015. The decision was made for a myriad of reasons. There was a lot going on in my life at the time and I was extremely stressed. One day a noticed a small, dime sized bald spot near the back of my head. I didn't really pay attention to it, because every couple of years, I would experience balding in the same spot and it would always grow back. I decided to visit a dermatologist, just to get some answers, and he said I had a mild case of Alopecia Areata. He advised me on treatment options, but I declined, knowing the small patch would grow back soon. I didn't know what I'd do with my hair next, but I knew I was tired of the weaves, extensions, perms, etc.
During this same time my niece caught Meningitis and had to have 2 surgeries on her brain. Due to the location, doctors had to shave the top half of her hair in order to complete the surgeries. I remember one day sitting in the hospital talking with her and she said, Auntie, "I don't want look ugly with some of my hair missing. I don't want to look like a boy." I assured her that she wouldn't be ugly and that her hair would grow back in no time. Little did she know, she gave me the courage and inspired me to do the unthinkable. I say unthinkable, because shaving my head was never an option in my mind.
The next day, I went to a local barbershop, asked them to cut my fro all off and I've never looked back since. I am forever grateful to my niece, because those few little words she spoke to me was what turned me into the fierce BALDIE I am today!
I don't forsee myself growing back hair anytime in the near future. I've never felt as free and confident as I do now. I wear my BALD PROUD!
What challenges have you faced as a baldie?
Honestly, I haven't faced many challenges, but I've had a few comments from some ignorant men saying they don't think they could be with a bald woman forever, that she'd eventually need some hair.
What words of encouragement would you share with someone who isn't confident with their baldness?
Whether you're bald by circumstance or by choice, just know that you are a part of an elite group of women in the world that do not let their hair define them. You are strong and you are beautiful and don't let anyone dare tell you otherwise! Own it!