Why are you BALD? In 2013 I was pregnant with our first child, she decided to come 3 months early, after she was born tests had to be run to see why she came before time and after tests and ultrasounds a tumor and thickening of my endometrium was found. Biopsies and blood tests later resulted that I had stage2 Endometrial stromal sarcoma (ESS), after a battle with chemotherapy I was given my all clear in Feb14, 6months later after my initial check ups and tests it was shown that me endometrium had thickened again and my left ovary/cervix was showing abnormalities. Once again I was undergoing biopsies and tests and I'm now back on the chemotherapy/radiation journey with stage3c Uterine cancer which unfortunately has spread to my left ovary and cervix. Originally when first diagnosed i opted out of having surgery I am 22 so was hoping to have more children. Now it seems that possibility is out of the window, I will be continuing chemo/radio for the next 6 months and then eventually I will have surgery to remove any risks of recurrence once again.
How has being BALD impacted your life? At first when I went bald from chemo#1 it was very traumatic, watching my hair fall out every day was extremely emotionally tough, it was not only impacting myself but my husband, our daughter was just a baby then so she didn't take any notice. Eventually I asked my husband to shave my head because finding it all over the house and in bed was more painful than it all being gone at once. When it was shaved I felt hideous, questions went through my mind 'will he still find me attractive?' 'will i be considered a freak?' but my husband knew that's what i was thinking, everybody did but I never showed that i was having these concerns. My husband would tell me everyday how beautiful i was and how proud he is and how much he loved me, eventually I began to embrace it, stopped wearing my wigs, i started to feel empowered, why should i feel embarrassed having no hair was not because i couldn't but because right now it wasn't necessary. The second time round of shaving was easier and liberating although i was still devastated to be going through treatment again and after six months of beautiful hair growth, it was OK this time, because i knew that having no hair didn't change anything about me or how my husband and family felt, my daughter is a toddler now and she finds it funny, slaps my head and kisses it. Being bald has changed me, not into a depressed low self esteemed woman but into a strong, fighting willful role model for my daughter and other women out there facing battles with their hair.
What words of encouragement would you share with someone who may not be confident with their BALDhead? Embrace it, beauty isn't defined by what you look like it's defined by who you are. Never loose sight of yourself because your bald, tell yourself everyday that you are beautiful and strong. Being bald isn't a burden or shameful. Its strength to shine through others that hide behind their hair & makeup to feel part of something.